As the holidays near, we know it’s not always good cheer for everyone. This time of year, many folks struggle with mental wellness, and for good reason. It’s a season of abundance, with lots of community, family and friend activities, gifts to think about and purchase, gatherings to attend, and lists galore - needless to say, it is overwhelming for most of us.
This season can lead to a time of loneliness, isolation, depression, social exhaustion, financial stress, anxiety, sleeplessless, changes with routines and schedules, relapse, comparisons, and fears of missing out.
With that in mind, THIS (yes, mid-November) is the perfect time to cultivate and create a PLAN for the holidays that fits BEST FOR YOU! This could mean:
Setting aside time for yourself: if you know you need (x number of days) per week without social engagement, block them off, now.
Being selective: who says you need to do all the things? Choosing 1-3 “must-do” traditions/activities over the holidays is best to ensure your energy goes to those.
Saying no: if your social battery and / or your bank account isn’t up for it - say ‘no’ without excuse, and without self-criticism.
Making (and sticking to) a budget: planning an amount per gift / activity / engagement, and being strict about it, helps manage credit card regret in the new year.
Getting creative: not all events need to be centered around food and gifts….perhaps this is the year to start a new tradition - a walk in nature, board-game /art? Challenge yourself and your loved ones to think outside the box this year.
Dry holidays: if you’ve been refraining from alcohol, the holidays can be a tricky time. Having a solid relapse prevention strategy is key to success.
…and with all this (and more) that you can do to plan ahead, sticking to a plan also comes with challenges. If you tend to be one to people please, at the risk of compromising your own mental wellness, reach out for support.
Remember, self-care isn’t selfish. Let’s make this holiday season the best, for YOU!